available from the Queensland
Christadelphian Support Network
The Big Book,
the basic Text for Alcoholics Anonymous.
Twelve Steps and Twelve
co‑founder of AA tells how members recover and how the
Children of Alcoholics: by Janet Geringer
don't have to be an AcoA to read this
book. You don't have to be an AcoA to need
this book. Janet, the 'mother'
of the AcoA movement, provides wisdom and information for all
Adult Children of dysfunctional families, and shares the
recovery hints that she has found to work for her clients since
1983 when she broke new ground in understanding what it is to be
Dance of Anger: by Harriet Lerner, Ph. D.
How to Heal Depression:
Dr. Harold H. Bloomfield.
than two‑thirds of people who are depressed don't know it.
One of them may be your friend, colleague, child, parent or
partner. One of them may even be you. You can suffer from
depression and not feel sad or emotionally down. Depression is
an illness‑ like heart disease, high blood pressure, or
diabetes. It affects the body, mind and emotions. It is not a
character flaw, personal weakness, or lack of discipline. It may
be genetic. Being depressed is nobody's fault. It is nothing to
be ashamed of. The message of this book is that depression is
treatable. The authors have produced a book that is uplifting,
encouraging, full of information and insight and could change
of Depression by Lewis Wolpert.
years ago, the author had a severe depressive episode. Despite a
happy marriage and successful scientific career, he could think
only of suicide. When eventually he did recover, he became aware
of the stigma attached to depression‑and just how
difficult it was to get reliable information. With
characteristic candour and determination, he set about writing
this book. This acclaimed investigation into the causes and
treatments of this devastating disease is now a two part
documentary screened recently on the ABC.
Grief and Loss...
with Grief. by Mal McKissock and Dianne
McKissock. First published in 1985 this slim volume of only 64
pages has become essential reading for anyone interested in
understanding the grief process, being reprinted 16 times up
until 1999. "The experience of grief, in response to loss,
is known to all human beings, regardless of age, sex, creed and
culture. Extremes of grief appear when one loses a close and
meaningful relationship. Death, divorce, separation, abortion,
the loss of a limb or lifestyle, even forced retirement will
precipitate this most painful human emotion."
Health & Wellbeing...
Various topics, though concisely
dealt with in this all‑Australian series, are handled well
and surprisingly in depth, making a useful introduction to the
conditions they describe.
Panic: by Dr Andrew Page. Overcoming anxiety, phobias & Tension, your 4 step guide to control
with Chronic Pain: by Dr Mark
Ragg. The mind body
connection explained, how you can help yourself, drugs and other
I'm Tired: by Dr Christine Read. Causes
and treatment of fatigue sleep disorders, depression, chronic
Overeating Disorders: By Steve
Brigham. The two most
common forms anorexia and bulimia are explained and strategies
to help overcome them discussed There is
also a useful short section on compulsive overeating.
Sexual Abuse: by Elizabeth Kelly. This
book offers a compassionate and comprehensive overview of the
problem, exploring strategies to limit the damage.
Can Control Your Drinking: By Andrew and
Cindy Page. Psychologists
Andrew and Cindy Page explain the concept of controlled drinking
and how it can be implemented in various social situations. Also
explored are issues that impinge on drinking, such as stress and
Dr Bill Grant.
carer's guide. Packed with advice and information from a carer
this book is a valuable resource.
Also on Alzheimer's Disease:
Will I Be When I Die? by Christine
Boden. Christine Boden was 46 when diagnosed with Alzheimer's.
This book is the story of her emotional, physical and spiritual
journey in the years since May 1995. Living with the stages of
Alzheimer's provides a unique insight into how it feels to be
gradually losing ability to undertake tasks most of us take for
granted. A must read for carers, families and friends of
Marriage and Divorce...
After Every Wedding comes a Marriage:
Florence and Fred Littauer.
with the humour that comes from a 45‑year journey together
the authors share what they have learned dispelling the myth of
the perfect marriage and perfection in general and get down to
the reality of growing a happy and lasting marriage. Fascinating
insights into different personality types together with
practical steps from the scriptures give the reader powerful
tools to use today.
When a Mate
Wants Out: Secrets
Saving a Marriage By Sally and
can restore your marriage with faith and an abundance of love;
you can work toward restoration, drawing your mate back into a
happier, more fulfilling marriage. Within a Christian framework,
this book takes you from the first shock of abandonment through
the hard work of restoration.
Children Divorce: by Elaine R. Seppa.
are usually caught off guard by divorce. While we accept we are
not immune to the ravages of our culture on the family, it is
still a shock to deal with in the families of our own children.
Parents discover that it's not only their children's hopes and
dreams that die. Their own dreams die as well. When it happens
all the academic studies and exhortations seem of little use.
Even close friends don't know how to help. How could we as
parents failed so dismally in passing on our convictions to our
children? They may wonder how their children seemed to give up
so quickly on the ideals they‑and the church‑had
tried to foster. Elaine Seppa writes with honesty and wisdom
about her own experiences as two sons divorced and remarried,
listened to and probed these feelings of powerlessness as others
related their stories. The final chapters describe a spiritual
journey marked by a closer walk with Christ, a deep calm, and
trust in God who "restores all things". Elaine tells
distressed parents, "your responsibility is to represent
the grace and forgiveness of God in the midst of very imperfect
Kids are worth it!
child the gift
key to good parenting is treating kids with respect; giving them
a sense of positive power in their own loves; giving them
opportunities to make decisions, take responsibility for their
actions and learn from their successes and mistakes. Throughout
the book, the author examines the approaches and methods of
three typical types‑the brick wall, the jellyfish and the
backbone. Through examples and humourous anecdotes, she
demonstrates which of these approaches work, which don't, and
why, in raising self‑assured, responsible and loving
why boys are different (?) ‑ And
how to help them become happy and well balanced men by
video set by Dr. Henry
Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
you believe your life is out of control? Do you have trouble
saying no? Can you set limits and still be a loving person? What
are legitimate boundaries? Do you feel others take advantage of
authors offer biblically based answers to these and other tough
questions tough questions as they show us how to set healthy
boundaries‑ personal property lines that mark out these
things for which we are responsible.
videos are in eight clearly defined sessions of about
30‑40 mins. They will stimulate you to have clear
physical, emotional, mental and spiritual boundaries.
1: What is a Boundary?
Session 2: Boundaries problems and Symptoms
Session 3: The Laws of Boundaries, Part I
Session 4: The Laws of Boundaries, Part 2
Session 5: The Myths of Boundaries
Session 6: A course of Recovery
Session 7: Resistance to Boundaries
Session 8: The Yardstick of Boundaries
Books on the same topic by Cloud
Boundaries In Marriage
Boundaries with Kids
Workbook for study classes
As companions to his sets of
3xlO videos; The Family, Homecoming and Creating Love.
Healing The Shame That Binds You:
Dr John Bradshaw.
shame explains Bradshaw is the core problem in our compulsions,
co-dependences, addictions and super or over achievement which
often results in family breakdown and the inability to mature
and go forward in our lives.
Dr John Bradshaw.
using a wealth of practical techniques, informative case
histories, and unique questionnaires, Bradshaw demonstrates how
your wounded inner child may be causing you pain. You'll learn
to gradually, safely, go back to reclaim and nurture that inner
child‑ and literally help yourself grow up again. In this
book we are shown how to: validate the inner child, break
destructive family roles and rules, adopt new rules allowing
honest self‑expression, deal with anger and difficult
relationships, find new joy and energy in living, by reclaiming
the wounded inner child.
Dr John Bradshaw.
was brought up to believe that love is easy. That anyone related
by blood naturally loved other family members, and that when the
time was right, I would fall in love and naturally know what to
do to develop that love. I now know that love is very difficult.
Creating Love requires decision on my part, above all, it
requires rigorous honesty, the courage to let another see me as
I really am." John Bradshaw provides a way that may be new
to us, to understand our most crucial relationships with parents
and children, with friends, acquaintances and co‑workers,
with ourselves, and with God. He shows how we can break free
from the destructive patterns of counterfeit love and open
ourselves to real honest love and building real relationships
based on trust, faith, and not fear.
Secrets: The path to
self‑acceptance and reunion by Dr John Bradshaw.
book reveals and helps trace the family secrets, the invisible
family patterns that have strongly influenced us all. The work
is sometimes painful, but always enlightening. With Bradshaw's
help the reader will perhaps come to a new understanding of self
and the forces that have shaped the personality bringing one to
a new appreciation and acceptance. From this, we can build more
open, honest, and loving relationships with the people who
matter most, ourselves, and above all with our God.
Shirley Smith Ph D.
Live your life in balance by breaking
the cycle of co-dependency and compulsive addictive behaviour. Co-dependency,
Australia's most unrecognised disease, originates from the
denial of the "true self' in order to survive within
dysfunctional family systems. Co-dependents either isolate, or
become very focused on and affected by others' behaviour. They
have an impaired relationship with themselves because they are
always on guard, hypervigilant, always looking outside
themselves for signs of trouble. Co-dependency can result in
stress, misery, and disrupted relationships, controlling
behaviour and physical illness. It is the underlying cause of
many addictions such as alcoholism, drug dependency, eating
disorders, work‑aholism, sex addiction and love addicted
relationships, and sets people up for abuse and to be abusers in
their turn. This book provides practical keys on how to break
the cycle of co-dependency and compulsive addictive behaviours
letting go of the past and creating a balance in life.
Changes that Heal:
Dr Henry Cloud. How to
understand your past to ensure a healthier future
Love is a
Drs Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth and Paul Meier. Recovery for co-dependent relationships.
"It's up to You"
is a very powerful tool. This book examines the way we talk to
ourselves and shows through the easy steps of Rational Emotive
Therapy how to reprogramme our old self‑defeating tapes to
reflect present reality leading ultimately to
self‑acceptance and good relationships by Dr Sabine
Learning to Love yourself:
self‑worth. By Sharon Wegscheider‑Cruse
is necessary to rid ourselves of toxic self‑defeating
messages, and choose positive changes..
for co-dependents, adult children and
spirituality seekers. By Sharon
outline of the journey toward spirituality and wholeness‑
the freedom of choice‑ is provided in this book for all
those who have lived with addictive relationships, whether the
addiction was to a drug or to another person.
Understanding Co-dependency: by
book answers questions and develops framework for separating the
person and their past from their current disease or disorder. It
places the past and the present in their proper perspective and
shows how to build a happy, healthy life.
Dr Larry Crabb.
change is possible if you're willing to start from the inside
out. Do you want a vital union with God, richer relationships
with others, a deeper sense of personal wholeness? Larry Crabb
helps you look inside yourself and give God the opportunity to
set you free from all that keeps you from living to the full.
Real change is to do with facing the realities of your own life
and letting God re-mould you into a person who is free to be
honest, courageous and loving. Real change is possible.
No One Is To Blame:
compulsive self defeating behaviour by
of us are familiar with the power of the messages about how to
live our lives received early in life, when we were too young to
know better. Many of us believe that these early messages were
the best we could get considering all of the human factors.
However, many of these messages had the effect of crippling our
early lives. Is there anything we can do to change these
messages and get better guides for ourselves? Bob Hoffinan's
book though unconventional in the usual sense comes to this
change through using his psychic knowledge to develop creative
ways to come to more guidance that is useful. TOP
Why it can
matter more than IQ: by Daniel Goleman.
book serves as a guide in a journey through scientific insights
into the emotions, a voyage aimed at bringing greater
understanding to some of the most perplexing moments in our
lives and in the world around us. The journey's end is to
understand what it means‑and how‑to bring
intelligence to emotion.
Please Understand Me H:
Character, Intelligence: by David
book will help you find your own individual personality style
through use of the Keirsey Temperament Sorter questionnaire the
most popular personality inventory in the world. Each of us,
says the author, has four basic kinds of intelligence, though
one of the four interests us far more than the others according
to our temperament and thus gets far more use than the others.
But the book's essential message is that we are all
fundamentally different from each other and that we would do
well to appreciate these differences and give up trying to
change others into copies of ourselves.
Encouraging Caring and Conflict
Resolution; A Biblical Approach: by Bro. Stan
Abuse and Healing...
Churches that Abuse:
those hurt by: legalism, authoritarian leadership, spiritual
Ronald M. Enroth.
book is about people who have been abused psychologically and
spiritually in churches and other Christian organizations.
Unlike physical abuse that often results in bruised bodies,
spiritual and pastoral abuse leaves wounds on the psyche. It is
inflicted by persons accorded respect and honour in society as
religious leaders who base their authority on the Bible, the
Word of God, but who have violated their sacred trust and
misused the power entrusted in them by other members. The
results can be catastrophic. The perversion of power leads to
divided families, fosters an unhealthy dependence of members on
the leadership, and creates, ultimately, spiritual confusion at
best in the lives of victims.
Healing Spiritual Abuse:
Ken Blue. The
Biblical answer to the wounds of legalism and how to break-free-from bad church experiences.
can we recognise the signs of spiritual abuse? What can we do to
heal the wounds we have experienced?
Blue answers these and other questions with frankness and
honesty offering hope and healing strategies to victims of
spiritual abuse. He also shows how to avoid abusive patterns and
offer instead Christ's gospel of grace to every casualty of bad
Serpents in the Manger:
Abusive Christianity by Jerry 1. Harris, Ph.D. and
Melody J. Milam, Ph.D.
has influenced everyone reared in our culture. Thus, to some
extent, everyone faces problems originating from what the
authors define as "Abusive Christianity". As the
dysfunctions of Abusive Christianity are clearly defined, the
authors offer positive and constructive suggestions for
confronting and solving problems. Abusive Christianity prompts
people to react to confrontation with defensiveness, anger, and
condemnation‑a part of the pattern the writers define as
the "Abusive Christian Model". The inflexible
"thou shalt not" threats of punishment and eternal
damnation often produce silent suffering victims with deeply
troubled, guilt‑ridden psyches. But one does not cure
abuse by being abusive; overcoming Abusive Christianity takes
love and care.
The Knight in Rusty
Robert Fisher. A delightful allegorical tale told with wit and
humour of one man's journey from fear, blame and a false self to
truth, reality, responsibility, trust and love.
Princess Who Believed in Fairy Tales: by
Fire in the Soul:
psychology of spiritual optimism by Joan
Borysenko, Ph.D. In this book, the author reveals the power of
spiritual optimism: a philosophy that sees life crises as
opportunities for personal growth and spiritual transformation.
Drawing on her own experiences and those of her therapy clients,
she shows how meditation, prayer, and heightened awareness can
illuminate the "dark night of the soul". This is when
the soul is on fire, fueled by despair. Yet, this same soul bums
with an inner flame that can consume negativity, allowing a new
soul to be born.
of the Soul: a
guide for cultivating depth and sacredness in everyday life by
married HYDE: delighting
the differences between men and women by
Road Less Traveled and Beyond: Spiritual
Growth in an age of anxiety. by M. Scott
Peck. In this profound book, "Scotty" continues the
journey of spiritual growth that begun with one of the most
influential works of modem times: The
Road Less Traveled. Now he leads the reader to a deeper
awareness of how to live rich, fulfilling lives in a world fraught
with stress and confusion. The greatest challenge, he says, is to
learn to deal with life's conflicts, problems and paradoxes in
order to find the true simplicity that lies on the other side of
complexity. With a unique blend of psychological insight and deep
spirituality, he explains that, although there are no easy
answers, life, learning and spiritual growth are an adventure,
well worth the effort.
and Other Acts of Love: finding
true value in your life by
See It When You Believe It: by Dr. Wayne
is like super petrol it helps take the knock out of living: (adapted)
from Barbara Johnson.